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Cindy Hayes, tell us more. Were you a Christian or a nominal Christian? What attracted you to him? Intellectual? Physical? One Up-Manship? And what did you know about Islam before you committed yourself?

Then what is it that you found was too constraining for you to honour your marriage? Give us more details.

Yes tell us more detail...
why you decided to marry him??

Was I a Christian? Only by name. Christianity is different than other religions. One is not born a Christian, but it is an act of faith.

What attracted me to him - the Muslim husband? It was physical at first, but then once we were married, I wanted our marriage to be successful. I wanted it to work in spite of all the changes and the hardships. I really tried hard to make it work.
What I found "too constraining" for me was..... he was severely controlling. He would show up at my job to make sure I was fully covered - hijab, the works. I was not allowed to wear makeup, jewelry or perfume. I could not have the friends I had before, or go to the same places I had gone. I had to do what he wanted, say what he wanted, think what he thought, and live my life how he wanted me to live it. I lost my identity. I had to study Islam, memorize Quran, teach other women the prayers, and be perfect at it. I was spied on, followed, emails stolen, beaten.

What I knew about Islam before I committed? - very little. I was taught just enough to believe that it was a religion of "Peace". I was not even allowed to read the Quran until after committing myself to the religion (converting). This was ignorant on my part to take such a huge leap, however, I was wooed and seduced by Islam as well as the Muslims. It was made to look quite appealing to me. I hate racism with a passion. I was told there was no racism in Islam. A major tenet of the faith is charity. I was shown similarities with Christianity that made it seem simpler and more real, i.e. no Trinity. I always had a difficult time with the concept of the Trinity. In Islam, I was able to give that up and believed that I could worship God without having to worry about the Trinity, since I didn't understand it. (I now whole-heartedly understand it).

At the time I married, I was learning about Islam, and my husband would praise me and tell me what a wonderful job I was doing. The special treatment appealed to my emotional side.

It wasn't long after I was married, after much studying, that I began to understand the true meaning of Islam. As I stated above, I was used in so many ways to help spread Islam, but once I began to have a clearer understanding of it, I could no longer participate in the way the Muslim community wanted, and I was tossed aside. I began to see muhammad and Islam in a different light.

I decided to marry him virtually on physically attraction and somewhat pushed, as Islam teaches that marriage is half the religion. I wanted to please God. I thought I was on the right path to pleasing Him.